Be kind to yourself

Women of the world, let us please start a kindness revolution. Kindness and mercy toward ourselves. Let us give our bodies a break. Thank our bodies for what they can do, or have done. Even if that list is relatively short.

I spend a lot of time at Frugal defending women’s bodies to them. We are so quick to list our perceived faults and trouble areas:

“I have linebacker shoulders.”
“I can’t wear that color.”
“Maybe if I lost 50 pounds.”
“I have no shoulders/butt/boobs.”
“I’m too short.”
“I don’t show my arms.”

These little nasty phrases break my heart. They are harmful and hurtful. I guarantee we are all harder on ourselves and our appearance than anyone else would ever think to be. Too many women dread the fitting room or assume nothing will fit them. Seriously, the number of women who have said, “Nothing fits me.” Nothing? You’re not naked now, right? Something fits you. There are endless ways to have a body. So many shapes. But there are woefully limited ways to mass produce clothing.

If you are shopping with me, I am going to steer you toward things like:

“I have strong shoulders.”
“I wear that color as an accent or accessory because I love it.
“That dress fits you so well.”
“This cut highlights your [insert asset here].”

So many ways to have a body, so few ways to mass-produce clothes.

So many ways to have a body, so few ways to mass-produce clothes.

One way you can carve out a little kindness toward your body is to know what fits and stick with it. This is especially true with vintage clothing. Curvy? Choose mid-century pin-up looks. Long and straight? Look to the 1970s. Also, find a tailor. Buy great clothes second-hand and have them altered to fit you. Don’t alter your self-image to suit throw-away fashion from the mall.

To quote the great Otis Redding, Try a little tenderness. Honor your body with great clothes. Choose the parts of your self that you love and accent them like crazy.


Dressing the Window

At Frugal, we create amazing window displays (if I do say so myself). Some are solo inspiration and execution, others are team effort. Our latest one is the latter. And I LOVE it!

Frugal mannequins set blazers to stun

Frugal mannequins set blazers to stun

window thrift vintage display star trek

Felicia is badass!

blazers window display star trek

Set Blazers to Stun!

display mannequin window thrift vintage

Penny is so badass!

I had decided to feature blazers in the window. We have a great stock of them and they’re perfect and chic for fall. So I tossed around some puns: Trail Blazers, Just Blazer, Blazers of Glory… Then I asked my 16-year-old son to throw out a couple, because he is a wordplay master. Right off the cuff, he says, “Set Blazers to Stun.”

“Thank you,” I said, “we’re done here.” Cue mid-century dime novel space theme. I lined the whole window in foil, dressed Penny and Felicia (yes, our mannequins have names) in sequins and sparkles, and added sensible blazers all around. So quirky, so solid. Add my eight-year-old’s spray-painted super soaker water gun, and we are all stunned.